One year mark

One year mark

I am rough around the edges. They say that the one-year anniversary mark of losing someone you lost is tough and yes, it is. It is vulnerable territory. I wrote this piece two weeks ago. While I usually excessively edit my pieces I am publishing this piece as a course edit because life is just raw to the bone sometimes.

I have not written for a while about Deb. Life has been busy with clients, workshops, grief rituals and the oh so normal yet blindingly beautiful elements of life. Here we are at the anniversary of Deb’s first death.

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Six ways to be authentically present with someone in Grief

Six ways to be authentically present with someone in Grief

When your heart is ripped open with a loss, grief creates fundamental shifts and changes that can manifest over a long period of time.

These developments ebb and flow as the current of grief is sometimes prominent and sometimes subtle, but the direct impact upon the soul is clear and transparent to the experienced eye.

One year ago, my closest girlfriend of nineteen years died at the age of forty-six after a twenty-two month journey with Acute Myeloid Leukemia (AML). I was one of her main caretakers, witnessed her slow decline and was fortunate to share the last couple days of her life with her. Through the heart-breaking incident of losing her, I have walked the stark landscape of grief and I feel inspired to share what I’ve learned.

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